My sweet Quinn was born January 18. I knew even before he was born that I would not have the stamina to attempt a "30 Days of Quinn" project like I did with Lucy. I did know, however, that I could not WAIT to get my hands on my baby boy, and newborn photos were most definitely still in my plans.  I shopped on Etsy in the months preceding his birth and commissioned a few special hats from talented friends, and by the time he came along, I had a good idea of what photos I'd want to try with my little one. I managed a few sessions in his first two weeks, and ended up with a very satisfying amount of newborn images for my third baby. Not feeling the pressure to get something done every single day, I mustered enough energy on the days I DID shoot to try a few more things, and it all evened out in the end. I even managed to go to a dear friends' home to shoot a set of these-- taking advantage of her marvelous home and natural light. 

And here we are... three months later. Life with Quinn added in is proving to be a supreme juggling act, and sitting to edit personal photos has not factored into that crazy dance much. I am just starting to see that it will come back, but initially, it's been more than enough to just remind myself that at least the photos got taken... and to let go of the frustration that editing and preparing them to share has not happened.

So while life marches on and this teeny little one in the following photos is now a strong, alert, smiling baby of nearly 4 months, I am so tickled at this gallery of my sweet Quinn, back when he was but 4 days, 5 days, 11, 12 and 13 days old. When we were just getting to know his spirit and his eyes and his fingers and his toes... 

Grab a cuppa... I didn't hold back for this post. There's a LOT of photos. I figure they will make it more worth the wait.

Session 1: 4 Days Old, in my dining room

 

Hat from the marvelous Etsy shop "BebeBeeCouture". I've used them lots and love their work). 

 

(Quinn really wanted to be awake that first day...So I let him do it his way, and made plans to try again the next day.)

Session 2: 5 Days Old, in my dining room

 

Another hat from the marvelous Etsy shop "BebeBeeCouture").

 (This next one is probably my all-time favorite of all of them. It will be a big print in my home for sure.)

(Next up, a baby snowman. :) He was a winter baby... so I kept trying to find ways to integrate that into his photos.  

Hat from the Etsy shop "LoveyChild".)

Session 5: 11 Days Old, Erin's house

(Session 3 was used for his birth announcements and Session 4 was with his daddy. I'm saving both for other posts.)

 

 (Hat from Sweet Pea Hats)

 (Sweet hat from my friend Heather of Woolywishes)

 (Hats from Erin's and my prop stash)

Session 6: 12 Days Old, in my sunroom

 

 (Hat from the Etsy shop "Zoik").

Session 7: 13 Days Old, a lightning-fast 4-minute shoot in my yard

I REALLY wanted a true winter image of the poor baby. He was fine and cozy, I promise!  

 (Cozy cocoon from my friend Heather of Woolywishes)

These comprise Quinn's first two weeks, all within the month of January. I actually have more images, from his next 2 weeks.... the February photos. Those will just have to happen when they happen..... Ack.

For now, I am content. I have peace in my restless heart for finally managing to not only edit January, but get it blogged. To see his sweet face as a fresh newborn again, and to be reminded how far we've come since these early days. There really is nothing like a newborn. I miss some parts of it... But I am not going to lie--- as we move towards month 4, and things get a little more predictable around here, I'm not at all eager to trade today's Quinn for that sweet newborn in these images. These photos will do nicely, thank you very much. 

Thanks for being with me on my journey.... And for letting me share things when I can... which isn't as often as it's been in the past. All in good time, yes?

Happy Sunday, tomorrow. 

♥

What Would I Do Differently? Epiphany Pt.2

As the third child gives in to his exhaustion and sleeps, I am here, at 4:30 in the afternoon, with two hands and a bit of time to write. I'm listening to my current "mellow mix" on iTunes--- comprised of some John Rutter Requiem, some Elizabeth Mitchell, some Paul Cardall. I'm eating my precious stash of triple-dipped toffee bits too quickly--- but they are SO good and there is NO ONE to ask for one, so I keep having another. And another. 

I just peeked in on the kiddos to take those above snaps... and there is a peacefulness in the hum of the white noise machines in the rooms... in the way the air conditioner breeze (yes, I gave in. I don't like to be hot!) makes Lucy's bird mobile spin....

This is a good moment. And this is HOME. 

And so I return to that question I left dangling the other day. That day I began telling you about my epiphany. The one where I realized that though I'd spent months aching for "something else", I was given the gift of realizing that if THIS version of my life was all I'd ever have from now on--- small rented house, chubby tummy, never enough money, etc--- if there was never "something else"--- that actually, I was okay. More than okay--- I truly loved my life RIGHT NOW. 

I ended that post with this question, a doozy:

If THIS was all you ever got to have, what would you be doing differently?

 

I'm curious how you guys would answer this. Please feel free to talk about it to me in the comments. Or email. Or call me and we'll enjoy a chat. 

 

I have time at the moment to tell you MY thoughts on it. 

I think I spend a lot of time "waiting." I never really realized this until that day. Because I see myself typically as someone who seizes the day, lives in the moment, is appreciative of the things she has... 

But in spite of that, it turns out I spend a lot of time WAITING. In the case of the epiphany above, I realized I had been holding my breath post-Lucy.... Waiting for her to get out of colic. Waiting for my life to feel "normal" again. Waiting for more time to return. Waiting for my REAL LIFE. 

So being faced with the Big Question about how I would live my life RIGHT NOW if this WAS my real life.... it forced me to realize how badly I was doing at understanding that this IS my real life. right now. 

THIS IS MY LIFE. 

What should I be doing differently?

 

On a different day, I could discuss the ways I've parented differently since visiting this question... ways I've nurtured my inner artist differently... ways I've just moved differently... But the big realizations of that day actually have more to do with my home. This little white house on Crest Avenue.

It turns out I'd been living in this little white house as if we were going to leave it. And indeed, we were, someday, going to leave it. We'd moved here under the assumption we'd only be here 6 months. We put all of our things in boxes, put all of our boxes in this basement, and moved into the house as it stood-- already furnished, down to the stockpile of DVDs. We moved into someone else's house.

And then life changed on us... (it often does that. Tricky.) and we were suddenly in this house indefinitely. But somehow my mindset stayed boxed up and I never let myself feel like this was HOME. We didn't enter it with a sense of belonging, and we weren't living in it with a sense of belonging. 

So this became the major revelation of my self-inquiry. What would I do differently? I'd stop waiting for my "someday home" and begin living in THIS home, NOW, as if it was all I'd ever get to have. I'd begin to make it my own. It helped me quickly create a sliding scale of priority--- like, what would I do differently if we lived here for the next FIVE years?

Well, I'd design and paint and create a real, cohesive master bedroom. 

I'd plant a perennial cottage garden out front. 

I'd hang family portraits. 

I'd add new throw pillows to the couch.

I'd strip the wallpaper in the dining room, paint, and replace the brass chandelier.

I'd hire a chimney sweep to clean the flue so we could have cozy fires in the fireplace. 

I'd buy new kitchen dishes. 

I'd declutter and make the whole place feel more cohesive.  Less like we moved in for a temporary stay.

I'd go through the boxes in the basement and toss a LOT of stuff we'd learned we could live without the last few years.

Okay.... well, what would I do differently if we lived here only ONE more year?

I'd still hang family portraits.

Throw pillows.

Dining room overhaul.

Declutter.

Cull and sort the boxes.

 

I'd still work on making it MY home, not just a place we lived for three years. 

 

 

It amazed me to realize how much I'd be willing to commit to when I allowed myself to STOP WAITING. How much joy had I missed out on, was STILL missing out on, because I didn't let myself fully live and be present in this house.

 

As it was, there was ONE room in the whole house that was truly mine, and that was Lucy's nursery.  And that only because she arrived after we'd moved in and we had a sense of purpose and intention with her arrival. The rest of the house was mostly as it was when we'd moved in, because we'd never intended to stay. 

So from that day forward-- from that one day I had the flash of realization that I could be very very happy in this little life if I was never given any other chances or changes-- I started trying to remember to STOP WAITING. To live this life NOW. 

And to begin making this house my HOME, whether it was for only one more year, or five, or forever. 

I have to say--- I am so grateful I did. From that month, October 2011, to now, May 2013, I have made a conscious effort to really LIVE here: hung some beloved things on the wall, changed out the throw pillows, refreshed the mantle-scape, planted tomatoes and beans two summers in a row, purged clutter and settled into life here with more comfort and confidence... 

 

We even stripped the wallpaper from the dining room and looked at paint samples for the walls. 

 

We have truly LIVED here, finally. 

 

Which is why I feel my gratitude spill over into tears when I confront a brand-new truth we've been handed:

 

The time has come to move. 

 

After three years in this sweet white brick house with the white picket fence, 1.5 of which were finally lived in with intention and love, the time has come to leave. 

 

We've never know concretely how long we'd stay here... so this has always been a possibility. But now that it's here, and after giving my heart over to it, I am truly sad. But also truly grateful we didn't waste our time here, STILL WAITING. 

And because of this experience, I know what I plan to do when we move into our new temporary place:

I will lovingly move my things, my family, my LIFE into that home as if it will be the only home we ever get. I will move there with purpose and intention. I will hang pictures on the wall and open those cardboard boxes to find the treasures that still matter after three years of un-use, and I will happily donate the rest of the things that have lost meaning over three years of un-use...

And my family and I will start the next chapter with a complex mix of sadness and excitement.... and most of all, gratitude. Thankful for what has been (oh so deeply thankful, sweet little white house where I brought home two of my babies and found peace and learned to slow down), and thankful for what is coming (thank you, soon-to-be-home on Pleasant Grove Ave., former home of Joe's parents, where so many memories have already been made, and where I know with all my heart a million more are about to be made).

Because the thing is, there is no "real life" about to begin. Not in a few weeks when we move, or a few years when we're done having babies and getting down to the business of raising them, not in a few decades when it's just Joe and I again....

**THIS** IS REAL LIFE. 

And I'm thankful. 

Exhausted, overwhelmed, sad, happy, busy, tired, unsure, insecure, uncertain, flailing, trying, striving, hoping, dreaming..... 

But mostly, thankful.